“What are you going to do when you get to Los Angeles?”
“Probably wait tables to start.”
This irritated my dad. You can tell by the way he pursed his lips and stared more intently at the television. If my dad was your typical parent, he’d have snapped back with:
- “You didn’t go to college so you could wait tables”
- “You don’t need to move to Los Angeles to serve food”
- “They need waiters here, too. Why not save money first, then move?”
He wanted to say all of these things. Any of them. Instead, he did something totally against his nature: He stayed silent.
I’ve seen my dad tell managers at restaurants he’d make such a scene they’d wish he never stepped into their building. I’ve watched him shout back at other parents at soccer games, and fire new hires five hours after they started because they had a bad attitude.
My dad doesn’t stay quiet often.
But this time, he bit his tongue.
Because about 10 years ago, he was looking to break back into the restaurant business. Except he couldn’t find a job right away. So…
Yup. He went back to waiting tables.
He knew getting back into the game was a months long process — and he had a family to support. So one afternoon, he went out and bought a waiter’s apron. By the time he came home that night, he had a part-time job waiting tables at Real Seafood Company.
More than a decade later, he owns three restaurants.
Yet it’s in this moment that I’m most proud of him. The moment he had to make a choice:
“I could wait for the right position to open up. I am too good to wait on other people and bring them their refills of Diet Coke and apologize for the lack of shrimp in their shrimp scampi.”
“I could take whatever I’m offered today. I just need to start: If that means mopping floors and fetching booster chairs, fine. This is just the start. I’ll do whatever it takes.”
Which would you choose?
Get These 3 Things in Los Angeles At All Costs
Recently, I received this email from a reader looking for advice on moving to Los Angeles:
“I’m planning on making this move myself. I’m in no rush if it means making this move the wrong way, but I also don’t want to waste any time. I don’t know a single soul out there and I don’t want a roommate. I have trust issues with sharing responsibility.”
I admire her determination.
But I’m wary of here last sentences: “I don’t want a roommate.”
When you’re planning your move to Los Angeles, your world should be consumed by three objectives:
Nothing else matters until you’ve satisfied a minimum 2 out of these 3 things.
Ignore everything else: Finding a car, furniture, making friends, exploring Los Angeles.
Just get started on these three things, no matter how awful the start may seem in the moment. Discomfort is temporary, not forever. It’s just the first step. You’re building the foundation.
After the foundation is set:
- You’ll have money to spend on $13 cocktails at Perch
- You’ll have your own apartment again, roommate free, where you can binge watch Gilmore Girls or Pretty Little Liars to your heart’s delight
- You’ll land your dream job, and laugh about those days you slung frappuccinos at Starbucks or stocked shelves at Target
But you gotta be tough.
What would you sacrifice for your fresh start in Los Angeles?
(I wrote a guest post on I’m Moving to Los Angeles about how to find a roommate in Los Angeles. A must read before you move. My buddy Justin runs the site and I know he’d appreciate it if you checked it out and left a comment. Thanks!)
Photo Credit: Geoff